Published:  12:50 AM, 11 June 2018

Body Language

It is what you don't say that counts

Body Language

Saira Aziz

Our bodies are constantly speaking for us whether we want or not. Famous Scottish Mathematician John Napier has wisely put body language in one sentence, "If language was given to men to conceal their thoughts, then gesture's purpose was to disclose them."

Have you ever been to a party/event where you didn't know anyone? Did you make the appearance - diffidently, so no one can notice you, or did you walk straight ahead to the host, nodding and smiling back at the other guests?

In both the situations you have thrown a storm of signals, through your facial expressions, body movements and posture. This is the power of non-verbal communication, commonly known as body language.

Do you know human communication is 20% verbal and 80% non-verbal; and hence it is a no brainer that it just takes a quick glance, maybe three seconds, for the other person to evaluate you when you meet for the first time.

These initial few seconds are incredibly important, while what meet the eyes, the other person is forming a quick opinion about you based on your appearance, your body language, and your demeanor.Be the best version of yourself by self-consciously becoming aware of your strengths in 5 simple tips.

1. Just be Yourself

There is nothing like being comfortable in your own skin, if you are feeling edgy, your body language is going to speak the same for you, creating wrong first impression. Even if you are feeling nervous, try to stay calm, take a deep breath, appear relaxed, stay focused and confident.

2. A Winning Smile

Nobody, not even you would like to meet a person with a big frown and a 'don't bother me' look plastered all over the face. You smile and the world smiles with you. A warm and confident smile will instantly put you and the other person at ease. So smiling is a sure winner when it comes to creating great first impressions.

3. Be Open, Relaxed and Confident

We all have heard, actions speak louder than words; this goes with all the social interactions we come across within our daily lives. Use positive body language at your advantage to radiate confidence and self-assurance. Don't slouch, stand tall, relax your muscles, make eye contact and greet with a firm handshake.

4. Winning Over Your Butterflies

We all feel nervous when heading for a job interview, entering an exam hall, or meeting someone for the first time, which can unconsciously lead to nervous habits or sweaty palms. Be positively aware of your nervous habits, so you can keep them in check. There is nothing wrong in being candid in a light hearted way about your anxieties, this will give you confidence and help you put at ease.

5. Mirror the Other Person

When in conversation try to mirror other person's body language without making it too obvious. This creates a sense of familiarity and we instantly become more comfortable and accepting, when someone looks or sounds like us. But use mirroring technique discreetly, only when appropriate, or you might end up irritating the other person.


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