A thought just occured to me. When I speak with people I tend to look at their lips rather than the eyes. I've never even assumed that it is the usual/normal thing to do to look at the eyes, until some years ago.
But I still haven't figured out why people look at the eyes in particular. And which eye do you even look at? You would either look at the right or the left eye. If you try to look at both eyes, your own eyes would be constantly moving and throw the other person completely off whatever they were trying to say.
Any way. Getting back to the thought that just came to me - I've just realized why I look at the lips rather than the eyes, which I've been doing for as long as I can remember (although this may make me sound like a person with a bad memory, it's more likely to be that I don't remember this aspect beyond a time because it was only then that I had newly discovered a point to focus on the face).
A friend of mine used to repeat silently whatever was being said by the person she was speaking to. She would be silently and somewhat noticeably be mouthing what you say as you were speaking. It was after I noticed this that I started to looking at lips while talking to her, probably to check if she was mouthing every single word I was saying. And then I started looking at people's lips as they spoke, and before I knew it, it had become a habit to focus of the lips of people when I am looking at their face. (excerpt)
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