"I met Sumit for the first time when we were studying for our MBA together. We were put into the same group in class, till the end of the semester and we had a lot of projects together. Among the 8 of us, Sumit and I got along the most! We'd sit for hours in the library, he was from Mumbai, so he'd take me around, and we'd even text till late at night.
Even though we had such a great friendship, the fact that he was a year younger to me, and he was Gujarati - a culture that was a world apart from my Bengali roots.
But just after a few months, when I went back to Kolkata to see my family -- he messaged me confessing his feelings towards me. But we had differences in something as simple as food choices. All those factors held me back, and I told him that we should just be friends.
But he didn't give up, when I came back he'd spend hours explaining to me how I was scaring myself into believing that things won't work out. He'd tell me that I wouldn't have to give up my food habits, career or even my lifestyle.
Within a year we fixed our marriage -- and both our parents decided to have a pure vegetarian, and Bengali wedding in Kolkata. So both the family's interests were met with! There was no dispute or misunderstanding. In fact even during the wedding, when people would ask me if I was fasting - like other Gujarati brides were meant to, Sumit's parents would come and tell them that they didn't want me to fast, as my glow would go!
It's been over a year since we got married, and it's completely opposite of what I imagined it to be. I thought I'd be restricted but I'm so liberated, because our differences don't separate us, but unite us! Both him and his family are the wind beneath my wings. I almost lost out on this relationship, because I held myself back -- but I'm glad I let go, because there's nowhere else I'd rather be."
Humans of Bombay, Fb
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